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Monday, April 28, 2008 @ 9:01 PM

60 ways to keep love
1. Make her feel secure, do not threaten her.
2. Say Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullah upon entering your home.
3. Rasulullah described the wife as a fragile vessel, thus one should take care of her. In this particular vessel there is a lot of goodness, so treat her in a gentle way.
4. When you want to advise her, advise her in privacy.
5. Be generous to your wife. It is a direct business with Allah and it goes directly to your wife’s heart.
6. Offer her your seat. Tell her that you warmed the seat for her and she will warm her heart for you.
7. Avoid anger, keep wudu’ at all times.
8. Look good and smell great!
9. Don’t be rigid. One who is rigid and harsh hearted does not come close to Allah.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattering. No for arguing. Arguing is a serious poison.
12. Call your wife with the best names. Sweetie, Honey bun, sweetie pie, be creative!
13. Give her a pleasant surprise: be an artist of surprises.
14. Preserve the tongue.
15. Do not look only at her shortcomings. Expect and accept her shortcomings and Allah will put baraka in your marriage.
16. Tell her that you appreciate her, or that you like what she did.
17. Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relatives.
18. Speak of the topic of her interest.
19. Right in front of her relatives, mention and confirm that she is wonderful!
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Surprise her. Make a change to get rid of the routine once in a while.
22. Think good of each other.
23. Pretend not to hear or see certain small things she said or did. For instance a little word she said that you didn’t like.
24. Add a drop of patience. Increase another drop at times where she is pregnant/ has her monthly period.
25. Expect and respect her jealousy.
26. Be humble.
27. Don’t make others, like your friends, happy at the expense of your wife/your happiness.
28. Help out at home.
29. Do not force your wife to love your parents. Help her to respect them and be kind to them and the love will come.
30. Show your wife that she is ideal. In many ways she is ideal.
31. Remember her in your du’a. Pray for her.
32. Leave the past to Allah.
33. Don’t show that you are doing a favour to her. We are the couriers, it is Allah that provides and sustains all His creation.
34. Satan is your enemy, your wife is not. Satan tries to throw words in your mouth and her mouth to fire at each other.
35. When you take food and put it in her mouth, you get rewarded for it.
36. Protect your wife, your precious pearl, from the envy of the Shayaateen, among the men and jinn.
37. Show her your smile, it’s a Sadaqa.
38. When little challenges are not taken care of or ignored and repeated, they become a big problem.
39. Avoid being harsh hearted and just moody.
40. Respect her thinking and show that you respect her thoughts and suggestions.
41. Help her to find and discover more of her talents/skills. Her success is your success.
42. Respect the intimate relationship and the boundaries of it. Sometimes she is not feeling well or sick.
43. Help her to take care of your children.
44. Give her the gifts of the tongue: “You look great” etc. Be an artist!
45. Eat your meals together.
46. Let her know when you are travelling and what day and time you are coming back.
47. Take some time out when you are angry.
48. Ensure that the home has secrecy and privacy.
49. Encourage each other with the ‘ibaadat/worship of Allah. Plan a trip to Hajj/ ‘Umrah together.
50. Engrave her rights in your heart and conscience.
51. Treat her with kindness and goodness in times of prosperity and adversity.
52. There is a messenger at the time of intimate relationship: the kiss.
53. If you are having problems with your spouse and you need advise, disclose only to those who care for you AND have knowledge.
54. Take care of her health, in turn you are taking care of your own.
55. Accept that you are not perfect. Nobody is always right except Rasulullah ‘alaihissalatu wassalam.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her.
57. Have mercy on her when she is weak.
58. Be the chest for her to lean on.
59. Accept her as she is. Accept her weaknesses. You may dislike one manner/ habit of hers but you will love another.
60. Have a good intention for your wife at all times.
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credits to kak muna's blog..
i found dis meaningful..
i believe dis is the way a woman should b treated..
insyaallah..in turn i will try to b a good woman if nt better..
insyaallah..amin..

i wan to read ayat-ayat cinta
n watch the movie..
i wonder wer i cn get it..
i'll search n b patient..
=)

thursday..
outing wif my gurlfs!!
miss dem..
yahoo!
cnt wait..